Comments on: Awareness is Cruelty

By: lydia2007

lydia2007 — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 12:01:47 +0000

I make it a point in my later years to not say, “I will never…………..” because past experience has taught me that as soon as I do, the universe will give me a situation where I will end up taking back the words I spoke.

Congratulations! I am very happy for you.

By: Mish

Mish — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 22:54:27 +0000

Funny how things come along… Congrats on “the right choice” and heading in the right direction.

It can be scary leaving the nest and flying on one’s own, but it sure is fun. Well, I’m enjoying my freelance work anyway. You won’t be starting another business if you don’t see it as such. How about just getting compensated for projects you enjoy doing?

Cheers!

By: imabbb

imabbb — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 21:22:01 +0000

The right track indeed. Through a series of events, the mayor has asked me to revamp the city’s website. I originally volunteered to help with a historical preservation project, and now I am being paid with the offer of future work. As soon as I accepted the offer I knew I had made the right choice.

I have done website design professionally in the past but I didn’t consider doing it as a freelancer until today. Of course I feel some anxiety going out on my own, but it feels more like freedom than the choking anxiety I felt before. I will go ahead and design this one website and decide what to do from there. I swore I would never start another business, but…

By: lydia2007

lydia2007 — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 01:20:58 +0000

The right job will find you when the time is right. Just hang in there and do what you are called to do each day. It is natural to feel some anxiety here and there. Just keep turning it over and doing whatever will bring you back to feeling “centered”.

It sounds like you are on the right track.

By: imabbb

imabbb — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 02:05:42 +0000

Lydia – Thank you very much for your sage advice. You are absolutely right. I must trust the process and have faith that the right work will come in its own time. I know this in my heart yet I am still having anxiety. My core has indeed been shaken and I am in a place I have never been before (but that in itself might have great value). For the first time in my life I don’t know what to do.

During the final interview for my last job, my boss told me I was selling myself short when I told him my salary requirement. (I applied for an enrty-level network admin job but he eventually hired me to be the team leader for a complex project working with his most important client.) He saw something in me that I could not see in myself, but I guess it makes sense since it was right after my divorce. I cannot allow that to happen again, but this time I don’t really care about the money.

No, this time it is different. This time I cannot sell myself short on the type of work I want to do. I want to be happy in my work, not just well-compensated, although that is ok with me. Unfortunately, I am not sure what kind of work will be most likely to help me on that path. Luckily, there is no hurry. If only I was clear on what I really want…

By: lydia2007

lydia2007 — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 00:24:13 +0000

This is my first visit to your site via Roger Johnson. I would just like to encourage you to remain faithful to yourself and trust that the right work will come to you when you are ready for it.

That was quite a blow you took there. From my own personal experience, when you get the rug pulled out from under you like that, it takes a long time to start trusting your instincts again.

Trust the process. And never sell yourself short.

Best of luck to you!

By: Mish Lee

Mish Lee — Mon, 07 Jan 2008 04:16:19 +0000

After reading some of his other quotes, it might be. I searched but those listing his quotes didn’t have that one and those that quoted it all said unknown. Ah well. Thanks for leading me to more quotes.

By: imabbb

imabbb — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 23:34:32 +0000

I'm not positive, but I think it may have been Hunter S. Thompson who originally said that. You should read some other quotes attributed to this gonzo journalist here.

By: Mish Lee

Mish Lee — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 20:44:28 +0000

Yep on all counts.

Because I love quotes…

Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well-preserved body, but rather to skid sideways, Champagne in one hand, chocolate in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming, “WOO HOO- what a ride!” ~Unknown

By: imabbb

imabbb — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 20:40:34 +0000

Hiya Mish Lee – I agree that life doesn’t throw more at us than we can handle. I’d like to add that life throws at us what we need to handle.

What I mean by this is that life has a funny way of knowing the lessons we need to learn before we do, and knows just what obstacles to place in our way to lead us in the right direction. As you have said, life enjoys throwing curve balls and it is important that we treasure our challenges for it is in the solving of these that we discover the hidden answers, the nuggets that we would have otherwise missed.

I am sure I will overcome the challenge, but I know that it is not the destination that is important, but the journey.